Comments on: It’s The End Of Privacy As I Knew It http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it & Other Discombobulated Thoughts Fri, 09 Jan 2009 12:24:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Tamara http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1527 Tamara Wed, 08 Feb 2006 15:13:01 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1527 FYI, I got a notify email for this entry twice. Not complaining, just letting you know! I can't say I really relate to your privacy needs, but I feel bad that everyone is suddenly violating them! At least it's fairly easy to switch your cell number. FYI, I got a notify email for this entry twice. Not complaining, just letting you know!

I can’t say I really relate to your privacy needs, but I feel bad that everyone is suddenly violating them! At least it’s fairly easy to switch your cell number.

]]> By: n. mallory http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1528 n. mallory Wed, 08 Feb 2006 16:38:28 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1528 I guess I probably would be less annoyed if my mother had asked first about the cell phone and qualified it to the other people that it's not to be given out without my permission. I saw the email she sent them and it had no such statement. I mean, I would like something in there that says that I normally don't have it on and I don't know how to use the voice mail (on purpose). I use it for emergencies, travel, and work when I'm on call and that's it. Half the time the battery is dead. ;) And when my dad gave out my phone to my uncle, I was surprised since he specifically asked my permission to give him my email. Fortunately I have Caller ID and and answering machine, but this just increases my worries that somehow the really greedy, shady, lives off money my mom sends him uncle will find out where I live. I have stated repeatedly that neither of their brothers is someone I want to be in communication with. I guess they don't really get it. I guess I probably would be less annoyed if my mother had asked first about the cell phone and qualified it to the other people that it’s not to be given out without my permission. I saw the email she sent them and it had no such statement.

I mean, I would like something in there that says that I normally don’t have it on and I don’t know how to use the voice mail (on purpose). I use it for emergencies, travel, and work when I’m on call and that’s it. Half the time the battery is dead. ;)

And when my dad gave out my phone to my uncle, I was surprised since he specifically asked my permission to give him my email. Fortunately I have Caller ID and and answering machine, but this just increases my worries that somehow the really greedy, shady, lives off money my mom sends him uncle will find out where I live.

I have stated repeatedly that neither of their brothers is someone I want to be in communication with. I guess they don’t really get it.

]]> By: Tamara http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1529 Tamara Wed, 08 Feb 2006 18:43:24 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1529 If I were you, I would consider forwarding an email to those your mom sent the email to, saying what you'd wanted her to say. It's a courtesy to tell people, "hey, this isn't really a great way to reach me under most circumstances." Then again, I guess that would entail giving those same people your email address. Oops. Could you ask your mom to follow up with them and share the additional info? The uncle thing is a huge bummer. And you can always change your number. Hang in there! If I were you, I would consider forwarding an email to those your mom sent the email to, saying what you’d wanted her to say. It’s a courtesy to tell people, “hey, this isn’t really a great way to reach me under most circumstances.”

Then again, I guess that would entail giving those same people your email address. Oops. Could you ask your mom to follow up with them and share the additional info?

The uncle thing is a huge bummer. And you can always change your number.

Hang in there!

]]> By: Tamara http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1530 Tamara Wed, 08 Feb 2006 18:45:41 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1530 I guess that should actually say "BUT you can always change your number." Braindead after ODing on carbs. Stupid blueberry muffin from Panera. It's not even that good. I guess that should actually say “BUT you can always change your number.”

Braindead after ODing on carbs. Stupid blueberry muffin from Panera. It’s not even that good.

]]> By: n. mallory http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1531 n. mallory Wed, 08 Feb 2006 19:36:19 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1531 Isnt that just awful? I treated myself to a Snickers the other day and it just wasn't as good as I remembered it. *sigh* Yeah, I think I'll talk to my aunt and explain that I don't want her to give that number to her brother. I *think* she'll understand. I mean, she should know. He's the root cause of her therapy. :P Isnt that just awful? I treated myself to a Snickers the other day and it just wasn’t as good as I remembered it. *sigh*

Yeah, I think I’ll talk to my aunt and explain that I don’t want her to give that number to her brother. I *think* she’ll understand. I mean, she should know. He’s the root cause of her therapy. :P

]]> By: Tamara http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1532 Tamara Wed, 08 Feb 2006 19:53:40 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1532 Yeah, I feel like I ate a muffin the size of Cleveland. Bleh. Ah, therapy. My sis and I were just discussing hers and how she should handle her relationship with our mom. Family. Gotta love 'em. Even when you don't. ;-) Fortunately, at least with my sister I never don't. Yeah, I feel like I ate a muffin the size of Cleveland. Bleh.

Ah, therapy. My sis and I were just discussing hers and how she should handle her relationship with our mom.

Family. Gotta love ‘em. Even when you don’t. ;-)

Fortunately, at least with my sister I never don’t.

]]> By: n. mallory http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1533 n. mallory Wed, 08 Feb 2006 19:57:20 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1533 I had a therapist once tell me that is was o.k. not to love your family. Friends you can pick, but family is something forced on you by society. That advice is what enabled me to disassociate with my uncles and such in the first place. I had a therapist once tell me that is was o.k. not to love your family. Friends you can pick, but family is something forced on you by society.

That advice is what enabled me to disassociate with my uncles and such in the first place.

]]> By: Tamara http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1534 Tamara Wed, 08 Feb 2006 20:01:15 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1534 Oh sure, there are definitely members of my family that I don't love. But... My mom, for instance, wasn't forced on me by society. And however lamely she sometimes executed her responsibilities toward me, she kept me fed, clothed, sheltered, and loved to the best of her ability. So I love her. Even though sometimes she makes me crazy. As I said, I'm blessd with my sister (and my younger siblings who, at 15 and 16, haven't had much time to really mess anything up yet, LOL). The extended family, yeah. To varying degrees they are exercises in tolerance. I actually *like* most of them. MOST. The rest I treat nicely when forced to spend time with them. Oh sure, there are definitely members of my family that I don’t love.

But… My mom, for instance, wasn’t forced on me by society. And however lamely she sometimes executed her responsibilities toward me, she kept me fed, clothed, sheltered, and loved to the best of her ability. So I love her. Even though sometimes she makes me crazy.

As I said, I’m blessd with my sister (and my younger siblings who, at 15 and 16, haven’t had much time to really mess anything up yet, LOL).

The extended family, yeah. To varying degrees they are exercises in tolerance. I actually *like* most of them. MOST. The rest I treat nicely when forced to spend time with them.

]]> By: Omni http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1537 Omni Thu, 09 Feb 2006 00:39:31 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1537 This is another reason why I'll never get a cell phone; I don't want to be accessible all the time. <a HREF="http://omniverse.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">(enjoys privacy)</a> This is another reason why I’ll never get a cell phone; I don’t want to be accessible all the time.

(enjoys privacy)

]]> By: n. mallory http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1541 n. mallory Thu, 09 Feb 2006 13:57:26 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20060208/its-the-end-of-privacy-as-i-knew-it#comment-1541 I'd be with you on not having a cell phone, Omni, but... I am unfortunately on-call for my job at least 1 out of every 4 weeks (I'm on the last of a 3-week stint right now). When I'm not on call, I still have to be able to answer pages from my boss and my other team mates. It's a downside to working hospital IT I guess. So, I need to be able to make a call and there are a lot less working payphones these days. Plus, as I spend most of my time alone and at least 50% of the time I've had car trouble was at night, I want that little bit of security should I find myself with a flat on the interstate after dark. When I first got a cell phone, I did use it a lot to make plans and co-ordinate with friends as we were always on the go, but since moving to slower, laid back Maine, I don't need that function. ;) I’d be with you on not having a cell phone, Omni, but…

I am unfortunately on-call for my job at least 1 out of every 4 weeks (I’m on the last of a 3-week stint right now). When I’m not on call, I still have to be able to answer pages from my boss and my other team mates. It’s a downside to working hospital IT I guess. So, I need to be able to make a call and there are a lot less working payphones these days.

Plus, as I spend most of my time alone and at least 50% of the time I’ve had car trouble was at night, I want that little bit of security should I find myself with a flat on the interstate after dark.

When I first got a cell phone, I did use it a lot to make plans and co-ordinate with friends as we were always on the go, but since moving to slower, laid back Maine, I don’t need that function. ;)

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