Comments on: I’ve Been Searchin’ My Soul http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20051220/ive-been-searchin-my-soul & Other Discombobulated Thoughts Fri, 09 Jan 2009 11:46:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Tamara http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20051220/ive-been-searchin-my-soul#comment-661 Tamara Tue, 20 Dec 2005 14:55:02 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20051220/ive-been-searchin-my-soul#comment-661 I don't think you're that different. I'm 37, I've been married for 7.5 years, we "own" a home (actually the bank does, of course!), etc., but I still sometimes feel like an imposter, someone posing as a grown-up. You've achieved some things that I haven't yet: paying off debt, for one. We're all kind of floundering, is the thing. Or at least a lot of us are. I think the fact that you're in therapy, and soul-searching, is a big testament to your strengths -- many people would just bury themselves in deeper and then it could get really scary. As for not being a good friend, I too struggle with feelings of guilt over my self-perceived selfishness and judgmentalness. But nobody is perfect, and we are probably being too hard on ourselves. At least we're aware, but let's try not to overlook the good things we do. Keep up the great "work" and keep reaching just a bit outside your comfort zone. I'm proud of you, and appreciate you sharing so much of yourself here. I don’t think you’re that different. I’m 37, I’ve been married for 7.5 years, we “own” a home (actually the bank does, of course!), etc., but I still sometimes feel like an imposter, someone posing as a grown-up. You’ve achieved some things that I haven’t yet: paying off debt, for one. We’re all kind of floundering, is the thing. Or at least a lot of us are. I think the fact that you’re in therapy, and soul-searching, is a big testament to your strengths — many people would just bury themselves in deeper and then it could get really scary.

As for not being a good friend, I too struggle with feelings of guilt over my self-perceived selfishness and judgmentalness. But nobody is perfect, and we are probably being too hard on ourselves. At least we’re aware, but let’s try not to overlook the good things we do.

Keep up the great “work” and keep reaching just a bit outside your comfort zone. I’m proud of you, and appreciate you sharing so much of yourself here.

]]> By: neca http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20051220/ive-been-searchin-my-soul#comment-662 neca Tue, 20 Dec 2005 17:04:53 +0000 http://nmallory.exit-23.net/20051220/ive-been-searchin-my-soul#comment-662 I agree with much of what Tamara said. I don't know that you are all that different - the difference is the degree to which we share these innermost feelings with others. I agree with much of what Tamara said. I don’t know that you are all that different - the difference is the degree to which we share these innermost feelings with others.

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